Do NOT trust John Wender. Period. He is a narcissist. Please do your homework. Always use protection because he will cheat on you and will not practice safe sex with anyone. He is dishonest and although much of the online postings seem vindictive the truth is there. He even shrugs and admits the things posted about him are true. He displays a frightening lack of remorse or any kind of conscience. Any empathy is feigned.